Sometimes getting back with an ex just is not worth it. Use these decisions to help you decide if you what to get your ex back.
1. Do you want your partner back?
This one's a huge decision. It should not be taken lightly. So give yourself some time to think about it.
2. In the end, is a relationship with this person going to make you happy?
This goes right along with the question about whether or not your want your ex back. Again, you're going to need some emotional separation from the situation to make an objective decision. When you were with the person were you really happy? Can you see yourself being genially happy with this person in the future?
3. Do you want things the way they were?
If you do get back with your ex, would you want things the way they were? You need to ask yourself honestly. If you do not then you need to ask yourself, who needs to change for the relationship to work? You or ex? If you answer your ex, then forget about it, because the only person you can change is you.
4. If you get back with your ex, how would you like things to be?
This is a great follow-up question to number 3. If you figure you want to be back with your ex, how would you like things to be different? Express these sentiments to your ex and see if he or she shares a same version of the future. If not, it's time to look for someone who shares your same vision for a relationship.
5. Are you willing to make changes in yourself to get your ex back?
Like I said in number 3, if you figure the person who needs to change is you, then the next question you need to ask yourself is if you are willing to make the necessary changes. If you're not, move on. Remember the only person you can change is you. If you do not want to change for your ex, then do not go back. Both of you will continue to be miserable.
If you can honestly make these 5 decisions you need to make to get your ex back, then the next step is to figure out what you need to do to get her back.