So let me paint the picture – you see a hot chick at a club, shopping center, or the tennis club. You build up the guts to talk to her, make her laugh and somehow manage to get her number. You think to yourself “SWEET! I’m in”.
You end up calling her a couple of days later, like the rule book suggests… to ask her out on a date. She doesn’t pick up. You think, “Hey she is probably busy” and you try again later that same day. You still don’t get a response. So you call again and finally you get an answer. You talk to her expecting that things are going to pick up where you left off and are utterly stunned when starts making excuses as to why she can’t meet up with you. She says that she will get back to you and she never does. You are left scratching your head, thinking to yourself “Where did it go wrong?”
Rule # 1 – Contact Her No Earlier than 36-48 Hours
I know it sounds hard doesn’t it? But you have to stick by these rules. Because when you wait for the 36-48 hours you have a less likely chance of appearing needy.
I’ve seen instances where, a few minutes after the date a text message arrives. Not cool. You know why? Because you just through all the mystery out the door.
Just make sure that when you follow this rule that you don’t wait too long after 48 hours. Anything more than four days and the girl (if she is interested in you) starts to get pissed because you didn’t call her within that “calling period” and she assumes that you are not interested.
Rule # 2 – Send Warm Up Text Messages
You know scoring a date is kind of like making a sale. Except the item that you are selling is yourself. So, in other words, you are going to have to look like something that she would want to date or buy.
Now that doesn’t mean being something that you are not. But it does mean that for the moment you operate within a certain guidelines until you have internalized all this “game stuff”… so bear with me ok?
So as part of this, stick to the rule of messaging her first before you call her. Every girl is comfortable with messages. In fact we like them more to begin with. See its great for us and it’s great for you too. It means that you can actually think about what you want to write, you don’t have to think on the spot.
Now, the main agenda with text messages is to warm her up. Let her know that you are on her radar and that you will be in contact with her soon.
If a guy messages us within two days of us handing out our number then that is sufficient enough for us to know that you are interested without appearing really needy and wussy.
In general rule you want to keep messages short and sweet. Banter is always acceptable, but long ended 10 messages in 1 are not. Do your best to be the one to end the messaging conversation. So, when you see the conversation is nearing to an end, let her have the last say and don’t message her back.
Some of my friends have trouble with this, because they feel in control by being the ones to have the last say. But you have to look at it from the point of view that YOU are the one in control because you have the strength to stop the messaging first.
Rule # 3 – Message To Get Her On The Phone
It’s that straight forward. If you find that the woman you are interested in is not picking up your calls but she is texting you back, then straight after a text message give her a call. More than likely she will be right by her phone and will have to pick up!
Rule # 4 – Keep It Light And Keep It Casual
When you first call a woman, it’s not the best time to get into a deep and meaningful conversation with her. You actually want to keep things fairly casual and brief.
The first thing that you want to do when you call the girl is to break the ice and get her laughing. Essentially, you want to get her back into the same state as she was in when she gave you that phone number. The best way to do this, is to refer to something that happened when you last saw her. Maybe refer to a joke that you had previously found funny with her and give her updated content on it. This will bring her back to that place and help her feel more comfortable with you.
That’s the thing with phone calls. You want to be able to establish comfort before you can even consider asking her out. If a girl doesn’t think that she will be comfortable with you or will be able to trust you then she will not even consider going on that date with you.
So remember the rule, keep it light and keep it casual. Break the ice and get her to laugh before you even consider asking her out.
Rule # 5 – Keep It Short and Sweet
This kind of follows on from the other points. But seriously don’t talk too long. Like five minutes. As a general rule with this whole gaming and dating thing… Less is always MORE!
You don’t have to get an update of what this chick has been doing in the past two days. She doesn’t have to know about all your past relationships before you guys go on a date.
All you have to get a chick to do.. is know you, like you and trust you and then you can get her to go anywhere and do just about anything with her.
Rule # 6 – Leave one voicemail – that’s IT!
If you have to leave a voicemail then make sure that its only one. When courting a girl, you need to remember to give her the space to think about you. If you are constantly trying to impede on her space then she is totally not going to appreciate it.
So, with a voice mail you need to remember to keep it short and sweet. You don’t have to repeat your number and all that boring stuff. Just leave a short message and then hang up.
So, what should you say? Something that entices her to give you a call back usually works. It can also be an opportunity for you to present a challenge to her. For example: “Hi, Susie. It’s John. I just wanted to let you know, that I’ve tried and tested your voicemail and it’s in good working order. A thank you phone call would be appreciated.”
So, when calling a girl, keep in mind that you may get her voicemail, so know what you are going to say if this does happen. There is nothing worse than a long winded voicemail message with a guy who doesn’t know what he is talking about, who is wasting your time and YOUR credit!
- Before giving up try these things first. Message first. If the girl messages back, then your chances of getting to talk to her again are much higher.
- If you message a girl and she doesn’t message you back.. and this message contained some call to action on her behalf. Then you need to know that you are going to have to do some major work on getting this girl to go on a date with you.
- Persistence is not the only tool you need. There is no point in doing the wrong things over and over hoping that you will get a positive result in the end.
- Remember to warm a girl up to you. You can tell that a girl has warmed up to you when she is laughing at your jokes and the conversation is flowing.
- When a girl talks with ease, it means that she is comfortable with you. If you find her being more quiet that usual, then there is something up and she is not comfortable, because A = she thinks that you are a freak or B = she hasn’t warmed up to you yet.
- In regards to what you should talk to her about… you main aim be cocky funny, make her laugh and have a good time.
- Keep it short and sweet and always leave her wanting more.