Okay…so you want to know how to chat with girls. Good thing you found this. Remember that saying that goes “First impressions last forever”? THIS IS TRUE. This is not being shallow, however. Humans are normally visual creatures – it is natural for us to judge people based on their appearance within the first three seconds. After the first three seconds, if they decide to interact, they then being learning about your mannerisms (quirks), demeanor, and yes, what you are wearing/how well groomed you are in your picture or webcamera. Now, not everyone (girls especially) looks for the same thing. That’s why it’s important for you to know who (what kind of girl) you’re trying to impress when you’re trying to chat with girls. Once you have the first impression down, and she’s interested in talking to you, there’s a few other things you must do.
- Be yourself. There is nothing that turns a girl off more than someone who pretends to be someone else. If you are uncomfortable, then take a minute to relax and breathe. Conversation will come easier to you when you’re not nervous.
- Smile! People are drawn to others that smile, even if it’s over the phone – smiles can be heard, too. It’s a friendly greeting that suggests you are not going to harm them and it’s a friendly type of interaction that you want.
- Confident about yourself; open. Confidence is one the the sexiest things a woman can find in a man. Ever seen the guy you never thought would get a girlfriend walking around with one of the most beautiful women you’ve ever seen? Confidence, it really goes a long way. Also, be open; people don’t like others who clam up and don’t talk or lie about things to impress.
- The small talk! Find out some things in common with the other person. Keep the conversation going. If it lulls to a stop, she’s probably not going to be interested.
- Positivity. This shows her what kind of attitude you have. Do you want her thinking you’re a pessimist and “downing” on everything?
- Attention. Pay attention to her and what she says! You cannot expect to make a good impression on her, get her to start talking to you, then for her to fall in love (or even want to meet you) with you if your forget her name and talk about things that only you like. If you do not pay attention to what she’s talking about, she will stop talking to you. This is the one chance you have at making your first impression a lasting one or a dead one – this is what matters the most.
- Principles. Do you really think the girl you’re chatting to now wants to hear about the party you got drunk at last weekend and had that awesome threesome? Girls like men with principles and morals. Try to withhold from stories like these – they will not win her over. Dirty jokes may be okay, if she likes those sort of jokes. Make sure to chat with her and pay attention to things she likes. It’s generally a good idea to let her crack the first joke, so you can see what kind of humor she has.
Getting prepared to chat with girls and women is almost like getting ready for a job interview; you want to impress the girl and show her your strong points, just as you would with a job. If you treat her with respect and follow the tips listed above, I promise you the girls will have no problem talking with you for a long while. Good luck with your escapades!