Are you having suspicions that the guy you are with is cheating on you? Though having these feelings can make you paranoid pretty quickly, your first step should be to make it look like you are not paranoid. There is not much room for error when you are trying to figure out if the guy in your life is cheating on you, because if you by chance make a false accusation, it's over. I'm going to share a few red flags that you should watch out for, but please realize that this is a pretty tricky situation. It's tough to be 100% positive whether someone is cheating on your or not. Just be alert, and pay close attention to what your mind and heart are telling you. At the same time, try not to let your fears and anxiety take over, because excessive and unnecessary paranoia will only drive your lover away.
The first signal to keep an eye out for is a decrease in sex. Guys can only have so much sex, even if they DO think they are Superman. You should be able to tell pretty easily if your guy is getting satisfied sexually from someone other than you. Now a lack of sexual interest from your man could mean he's getting it from another woman, or it could simply mean that he's been watching more adult movies. Either way, a decrease in sexual frequency and desire indicates serious issues within your relationship.
The next thing you should pay attention to are his cell phone habits. In a perfect relationship and perfect world, most people would trust without question that they do not have to worry about who is sending text messages to or calling their significant other. This might be fine in some situations, but you can not be too careful with this one, especially when you suspect that you're being cheated on. You'll know that something might be going on if your guy gets protective or nervous when he gets calls or text messages when you are with him. After all, what reason would he have to be nervous if something was not going on that he wanted to hide?
Next on the list of red flags is emotional disconnect. Please realize that relationships in general tend to have natural emotional fluctuations, so it's normal if you and your partner are not absolutely crazy about each other every minute of every day. However, emotional disconnect is a little more serious. There might be someone else in your man's life you sense that he is drawing away from you, and that the two of you are growing apart. If he's just not laughing or seeming as passionate as usual when he's around you, there is definitely a problem here. In case you did not know, it is hard to evenly spread love and passion between two different people (lovers). The person who used to have all of it will be able to tell that it's slipping away if it's being given to someone else.
The last red flag when it comes to finding out if your guy is cheating on you is simply looking into his past for a second. There's an old saying that goes, "Once a cheater, always a cheater." If the guy you are with has cheated before, do not EVER think that he will not do it again, because it's always a possibility. You should rest assured though that is has nothing to do with you. The act of cheating is a self-serving act. The cheater does it to satisfy one of their own urges without taking their ever taking their current partner into consideration.