Dating after divorce can be a very daunting challenge especially as you have been used to there being the two of you and having to go it alone can be very scary. Also because of your age you are concerned that mature dating is going to take you well out of your comfort zone.
The first thing to do when it comes to mature dating is to prepare yourself mentally. If you have friends that are single ask them where they go to meet people and whether they have dated online. They should know what the dating protocol is and can give advice. Take yourself back to when you were in your twenties and you used to chat with your friends about guys you had met or were hoping to meet. Well, just because you are more mature it doesn’ t mean that you can’ t still share your hopes and fears with a friend. Try and meet your fears head on. See if you can go out with a group of other singles and pick up on some ideas from them. With friends around you, dating won’ t seem so intimidating and you will have some added support.
Stop being so self critical and doubting that anyone will find you attractive. So what if you need to lose a few pounds, you still have a great smile and a warm personality.
Go out a buy yourself a new outfit but don’ t look for clothes that you think may help you to attract a man. You may remember buying clothes from your youth. Well don’ t try squashing yourself into a smaller size of dress or wear high heels, if you are not used to them. Remember you are not trying to dress like a 20 something. Buy yourself an outfit that is smart, yet casual, that you feel happy in and that accentuates some of your best features. If you have lovely blue eyes, then buy a blue dress or a pretty blue blouse to accentuate them.
Meet in a public place and spend as much time as you feel you need getting to know everything about a man, before taking him home to meet the family. Work on building friendships and getting to be comfortable around men instead of worrying about taking relationships any further.