You’ve probably heard the old saying that attraction is not a choice. People are attracted to others on many levels – many of which we aren’t even aware of. The attraction one person feels for another isn’t always logical, yet it exists. If you’ve been dumped by your girlfriend, there’s a good chance that she still loves you, but may not feel that same level of attraction she once did.
But what if you could ignite those old feelings? What if you could work your ex into feeling a red-hot desire for you? How long do you think it would be before you got back together?
The first step in creating attraction is to get her attention. In order to do this, you’re going to have to start becoming unpredictable. While she may be expecting you to wallow in self-pity, you should demonstrate just the opposite. If she expects you to come begging for another chance, you should do the opposite – ignore her for a bit.
You see a pattern here? The last thing you need right now is mediocrity. And that’s exactly what you’re going to do if you follow predictable patterns of behavior. You may not be the first guy she dumped, so she knows the ropes. She knows what to expect and is eagerly anticipating you to be showing your highly emotional side.
Okay, so you’ve got her attention, now what? Well, you’ve already shown her that you aren’t typical. You’ve shown her self-assurance, confidence, and strength. Ultimately, this is what will create attraction again. But it’s not really as simple as just ignoring her. It has to be a little more than that.
While you’re staying away, you’re going to want to live your life as though she isn’t there. Hype it up a little and make it look like you’re having the time of your life without her. This is really going to send her into a tailspin, as everything she thought she knew about you has suddenly been turned upside down. At this point, she may come to the sudden realization that she risks losing you unless she does something.
It’s important that during this time, you don’t make it look as though this is all for her benefit. It has to look genuine. If she thinks that it’s a ploy simply to get her back, you could lose her for good. This will test you in ways you can’t imagine. However, if you’re successful, you’re going to see a completely different attitude with her. She’s very likely to become more accommodating and, if you’re really lucky, you’ll start to see signs of attraction again.