If you’ve ever wondered why the no contact rule after a breakup is so strongly recommended by virtually every article and eBook you’ll find on the subject of getting back together with an ex, then should read this article carefully because offers up insights on three reasons that make the no contact rule after breakup so important.
The first reason that the no contact rule after a breakup is so important is that it gives your ex time to process things without feeling any pressure – and the guilt that almost always comes with that kind of pressure – that may come from your efforts to talk to or see your ex.
As much as you may not want to hear it, your ex needs time away from you to process things and to sort through their feelings. A breakup isn’t just tough for the person who got broken up with to deal with. It’s also tough for the person who ended the relationship to deal with.
You need to respect your ex’s need for time to process things and to work through his or her own pain and guilt. If you don’t, you will simply cause your ex’s resolve to harden.
The second reason that the no contact rule after a breakup is so important is that it gives you time to process things and come to terms with what you did and said – and didn’t do and say – that caused your ex to feel that the relationship had to end.
This should give you time to go through your own healing process and come out the other end a better person, the type of person who your ex had wished you had been all along.
The third reason that the no contact rule after a breakup is so important is that it gives your ex time and space to think about you and to experience his or her life without you in it. That can be deadly to his or her “stated” plans to follow through on the breakup because – assuming that there was a time when you and your ex were madly and deeply in love and couldn’t stand to be apart – your ex will miss you.
If you attempt to be “in your ex’s face” after the breakup, not only do you deny him or her the chance to miss you – and then want you back – you also run the risk of alienating them by manifesting the kinds of desperate and petty behaviors people in situations like these commonly do.
You put all three of those reasons together and you should be able to see why the no contact rule after a breakup is so important.
There’s something else that you should consider…