So she dumped you. It hurts, it stings, it’s the most crushing feeling in the world. You spend hours upon hours telling her how you love her. How much she means to you, and it only takes her seconds to tell you she’s no longer interested. She’s finished with the relationship, and she’s moving on.
So why in the world is she still text messaging you?
When an ex girlfriend is still texting you after the break up, there’s a definite reason behind it. Actually, there are several. Some of them are good, some of them are bad, but all of them can be used as indicators as to where she is mentally and emotionally.
And if you want to get her back? You’ll need to know exactly what these texts mean, and how each of them should be properly handled.
Reasons Your Ex Girlfriend Still Texts You
Let’s get one thing straight: it’s always hard to let go. Even if she’s the one who broke things off, you and your girlfriend shared time together. You have memories, you share special feelings that still exist. Nothing can change that except TIME.
For this reason, time is certainly of the essence. The longer you wait before acting, the further away your ex girlfriend will go. Mentally, emotionally, she’ll drift away if you don’t do something to keep her interested, which is why moving quickly and acting properly is so vital to making her want you again.
Back to the texting… an ex who texts you is still thinking about you. This is undeniable, but don’t get excited just yet. There’s no guarantee she’s interested, or even thinking of wanting you back.
Yet your ex can’t bury her feelings so quickly. Those feelings are still there, and there are specific reconnection techniques you can learn to bring those feelings back to the surface. This is one of the later – and most important – of the steps to getting her back.
So yes, it’s good that she’s texting you. But should you text her back? Well… that’s where things get sticky…
What To Do When Your Ex Girlfriend Texts
An ex who keeps texting after the break up is leaning on your old relationship for support. She wants you to be “there” (in case she needs you), but not THERE (romantically). This does you absolutely no good, but it benefits her for several reasons:
- She gets the comfort of still talking to you
- By answering her texts she feels secure that you’re still interested
- Your ex girlfriend gets to know exactly where you are (i.e. not going anywhere)
All of these things give her strength. They give her willpower. Worst of all, they give her the confidence to continue with the breakup.
This is the complete opposite of what you want. After a girl breaks up with you, her first priority is to make sure her decision was the right one. She’ll attempt to justify that decision to herself, to friends, and sometimes to family. In short, she wants to know she DID THE RIGHT THING.
By seeing how much you’re still into her, and by talking to you through text messages, she’s ratifying that decision. The more you chase her by answering her texts, the easier it is for her to run. Why? Because she knows SHE HAS YOU. She can go out, see other people, and eventually drift away… all with the confidence of knowing you’re a fallback plan in case something goes wrong.
“But I don’t mind being her plan B. I can wait for her… “
That’s what you’re thinking, right? This is what you told her?
Well forget that. That type of thinking is lame and desperate, at a critical time when you need to be as strong and Alpha as you possibly can.
Best Thing To Do When Texting Your Ex
Want to know the greatest thing you can do when an ex girlfriend text-messages you? Totally ignore her. Yes, I know you want her back. And yes, I know ignoring that text will probably be the hardest thing you’ve ever done. But believe me, writing her back is only justifying her decision to stay broken up.
She’s pushed you away, but she wants to keep you at arm’s length. She wants the comfort of realizing she can have you back at any time, but with that knowledge comes the authority to go out and give some other guy another try.
There are 12 irreversible mistakes people make when trying to win an ex back. Texting with your ex is one of them. Learn what the rest of them are, because the sooner you can avoid making these errors the faster you can put your girl back in your arms again.